Companion tools for the journey
Three free, practical guides that go alongside the books — useful whether you’ve read one of them or all six. No purchase needed.
The Map of My Patterns
Not sure which book to start with? This short self-check walks you through six quick sections — one for each book in the series — so you can see, in about two minutes, which pattern is most active for you right now.
- Six short sections, one per book in the series
- A simple scoring guide that points you to your starting book
- No right or wrong answers — just a clearer picture of where you are today
The Hard Boundary Checklist
A short, practical guide for the moment a boundary needs to be said out loud. Includes a three-step script and exact phrases you can adapt to your own voice — for family, work, partners, and friends.
- A three-step script for holding a boundary without over-explaining
- Ready-to-use phrases for five common contexts
- A self-check to use before the conversation, and space to practice your own
Before You Respond
Ten pause cards for the moment right before you react on autopilot. Print them, cut them out, and keep the deck somewhere you’ll see it — a wallet, a desk, anywhere you need a second to pause before responding.
- Ten printable cards, ready to cut and keep
- Short, concrete prompts for the moment before reacting
- No order required — pull one at random, whenever you need it